Life has so much to Offer!

I always had this saying diving deep down my heart at every given situation of my life. When life treats you BAD,life pushes you down or it takes something away from you, always remember these golden words. It is your life and you should take full control of it, and that control can start from within you and not from others.

I have been in these kind of situations more often than not, when ever life takes something away, it will not leave that space empty, it will fill it with what has to be there. Human mind is so fragile and sensitive that it cannot miss any moment, it needs things to happen that very moment, it is at this point when you become weak in heart, patience is at stake, you start liking everything which is good to you without allowing the judgmental part of brain to work.

When ever you lose something in life, always remember that you have lost only ‘SOMETHING’ in life and not ‘LIFE’, all it takes is to have a strong mind and heart which can work together at different situations to get the best back in your life. The biggest mistake that we do is to dwell in the past, it is one bad habit that most of us have, it takes a lot in a person to see from today and dream a great ending. As the saying goes “you cannot go back and make a new beginning but you can start today and make a new ending”. Never lose confidence and hope no matter how bad a situation you get into, because these are the ultimate weapons that can get you out from it successful.

Never ask ‘WHY ME’ when life treats you bad or pushes you down, because we do not ask ‘WHY ME’ when the same life takes us to different heights. Always search for ‘WHY’ which will help you understand what is going wrong and how it can be corrected. Everyone should have the confidence to feel it is MY LIFE and i have the ultimate control of it.

Life gives answers in three ways to everything you ask for

1. It says yes and gives you what you want

2. It says no and gives you something better

3. It says wait and gives you the best

My belief is that if you do not ask for anything, do not have any expectations, be sincere in your efforts you will get the best. It happened with me all my life. I never planned for anything. I took one step at a time, put in my sincere efforts got the best results.

I did not have a wish list for anything. Things just happened for me. May be I am very lucky. But I don’t believe that people are just lucky and they get what they want without the hard work. I think of it more as I got what I deserved. I guess it is like that with everyone.

I have seen my parents live like this. Dad and mom never had any expectations from life, from us, from what they did. And they led a happy, peaceful life. You will not face many disappointments in this way of life.

I believe in God. But I confess I pray most of the time when I need something, like when I go for an interview. But I never ask for success in my attempt. I do ask for the strength to do my best. After the interview or any exam I ask god to give me what I deserve the most. I will accept it happily; with out any regret what so ever. I am not a super human not to get disappointed when I fail in my attempts. But I do recover quickly keeping in mind that “Everything happens for the best.”

The secret is I don't know what is best for me, and I leave it for my fate, destiny or God to decide it for me. One catch for this is that you need to make the best of what is given to you. I failed at certain things in my life but I had better things that followed. So now when I fail at some thing I feel that it will do something good for me in the long run. Now I am less worried about my future!

'CHOICE' Helps people or Destroys them?

I write this blog after a long time. I choose this topic with the word CHOICE is because of the fact that every single person in this world have to deal with it. Life will give various situation to each individual where they will be left with nothing other than choice.

One great thing is that life is one, if not everyone would have asked for a choice. The reason for the word to be so powerful in life is because in reality humans have many choices in what ever they want.

Starting from relationship, the reason why there are many relationship failing in the recent past is due to choices available for the people in love. If things does not work out between them, one will start searching for another partner who will fit the space rather than finding a way to solve the problem existing.

Loyalty at work, this has started missing from person over person due to choices available. Our previous generation people have worked in an organization for more than 20 years. In this present world it is becoming tough to stick on with one company for more than few years.

When your eyes go through these lines it will make each one of us feel how many choices we would have made which has had a great impact in life.

This is an debatable topic as i know there would be some group of people who will not agree that having choices will not hamper their life. What i write is from my point of view.

A Choice Made

I shall be telling this without regret.
Somewhere, somehow, during my earthly time
I met several damsels, some ordinary, some sublime.
I have chosen to love the one with a soul deepest
And since then, I have not known any rest.

Cheers
C.J

The meaning of Relationship is changing

Days are changing in every one's life. Time is running faster and life is getting mechanical. We have less time for family and personal life is taking a beat. This is for the young group of people who are in the sweet late twenties where they held their hope high to get married or get into relationship.

Life has changed so much that the girls are getting settled much before the guys. what is happening with this change is making girls independent and they get their head high. Guys when they fall in their relationship are forced to be sweet with the girls. One mis-understanding and the relationship is getting shattered.

The difference about the relationship that was existing before and today are, yest er years women were so dependent on their husband and would like to do anything for them to make sure they are living happily. What ever mis-understanding happens they look at it from a family point of view. In today's life when a mis-understanding happens girls look at it from an individual point of view, that they are hurt and want to be separate. This is becoming very bad in the society.

Research clearly shows that the divorce rates have gone up 40% in our country. Love is another great thing that can happen in any one's life. Guys generally are very serious when it comes to relationship. Girls are attracted with the new corporate life and the job they get and the new people they meet everyday. Which is making their liking and thinking change anytime.

Relationship the meaning of it has changed. It has lost its value??? I could still see wonderful people who are very true between each other. But when you look around the majority of incidents happening it seems to be scary for a person to get married to a girl working in MNC. I hope this will change in sometime and the real value of relationship in life will be felt by people who are getting into it.

I personally have experienced how a relationship can break overnight and change to another one. The only thing which a human has to control in life is feelings. What we feel is what we execute, when that becomes wavering inside our heart and mind, we end up doing something which we will not like after some time.

I wish everyone who are getting into relationship understand each other very well and try to find a way how to live happy, rather than searching for alternatives.

Relation ship sinks the most
C.J

Great Start For the Day

BEING IN TWENTIES - SOMETHING |

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|It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that |

|there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not |

|like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or|

|two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. |

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|You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends|

|that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people |

|you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the|

|most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing |

|that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they |

|are as confused as you. |

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|You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you |

|would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you |

|are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. |

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|Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find|

|yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you |

|have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to |

|your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are |

|insecure and then the next, secure. |

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|You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and|

|scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling |

|on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting |

|further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you |

|are or move forward. |

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|You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such |

|damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone |

|decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love |

|someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing |

|this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and |

|random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an |

|idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and |

|questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics |

|because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, |

|the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race |

|would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! |

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|What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We |

|are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can |

|to figure this whole thing out.

Travel of Life

I am happy to write this blog as this is the come back for me after a long time.. I felt something is lost in me without writing what i want.. I cant complain saying that work and other side of my life ate all the time.. Thats a lame excuse.. Here i am wanting to share what i think about life..

Life starts with us being born in this world as young kid, and i assume it does not start for anyone like a grown up kid.. that is the starting stage of a man's enterance in this world.. When we grow up as a kid, there are many things that we do for which our parents will be so sweet in responding.. We should never forget how we come up in life as it is very important and the people who were involved in what we become in life..

I have not lived for many years in life to comment on how it will be after seeing my kid getting married.. But i can see how it is for my parents.. this is a great circle in life.. at my young age i would have asked my parents choclates and biscuits... now my dad is asking me the same question.. and i get him stuff... this is not to show what i do.. but to proove thats how life goes... what we do for our kid, will be returned to us when we get old.. and i love doing anything for my parents...

Everything happens for a reason in life.. when u look at things that has happened it will bring a smile in ur face.. cos u will know how well u have crossed all those moments..handled tough people and still been nice to them...

i will be happy to continue this blog when i get old as i will have the age and life's journey to write..

Cheers
C.J

Everything happens 4 a reason

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away they were meant to be there...to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but you lock eyes with them and you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair, but in reflection of you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would never would realize your potential, strength, will power, or heart.

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, love, and lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all acure to test limits of your soul. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to know where safe and comfortable but dull and otterly pointless.

The people you meet affect your life. The successes and the downfalls that you experience can create whom you are and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but also because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little things. Make everything count. Appreciate everything you possibly can, for you may never experience it again.

Talk to people whom you have never talked to before and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have ever right to. Tell yourself you're a great individual and believe in yourself, no on else will believe in you. Create your own life and then go out and live it.

How are parents important in life?

I want to blog about this for a very long time. I like my parents very much as same as how every human being do in this world. There is always difference between the culture in which the people in India are brought up. The love and affection is always there even though we stand independent in life.

There will be times when we will not like what our parents do or say to us. As the time pass by we will realize that what they uttered at that time is for our happiness and nothing else. The main reason why we will have major issues with our be-loved parents is when we fall in love. We feel our independence is lost in their arms. The point is they are from a generation of people where 'LOVE' was a big crime, we should also understand why they have that kind of perception for love when we approach them. The main reason why take so much pain in bringing their kid up in life is to see him\her be happy. It is upto us to let them know in a nice way about what we want and why we want.

The most important thing in life is, to get true and unconditional love,the only people to approach first are parents and then friends. Girl friend might sound very interesting at the beginning provided there is proper understanding between the couple, if not you can see that life is walking in hell. When comes to parents, the love that they shower on us will be without any expectations. This might not be the same in everyone's life because there are lot of people who have had horrified life due to bad parents.

All I could say based on my life and perception, if you are blessed with parents who understands your likes and dislikes in life, treasure them and make sure to keep them happy on any given situation.

I love my Parents
C.J